I’m a single parent and really struggling

Some single parents and carers will be feeling especially alone and isolated. If you know other single parents, reach out to them and check in with them as often as you can. It can be reassuring to know there are others in a similar situation. You are not the only person going through this and you are not alone. 

Whether you are in paid employment or not, single parents are often under a lot of financial pressure. Make sure that whatever your situation, you are getting the government support you are entitled to. Check out the ‘I’m worried about not having enough money right now’ section for information about financial support, benefits and more.

The reality is this is tough, and there will be some bad days. However, there are little things that you can try that will help you cope.

• Get little moments of peace and calm when you can.
• Keep talking to your kids – e.g. “yesterday was a crap day, we started yelling at each other. What are we going to do differently today?”
• Don’t beat yourself up because you’re not being a perfect parent, so long as you are doing your best to keep everyone as safe and calm as possible.
• Try and take notice of the little moments that make you smile or when you experience something beautiful. Whether that’s something cute or kind your tamariki did, feeling your feet on the grass or hearing the sounds of the manu/birds.
• Ask for help - being a single parent is incredibly hard. Asking for help does not make you a failure or weak. Contact friends, whānau, or neighbours. They might be able to assist with practical things such as grocery shopping or just be an empathetic ear.